Ah, so happy with the title. As I was talking about before in an earlier post, there is always this constant battle between children and their parents about playing video games. I also stressed the fact that because of this unreachable agreement between me and my mother, we have not spoken to each other since i was 17. Now I am 22, and looking back i can see now that if only she and I had given ground and actually sat down with each other and talked it over we would probably be happy and still on speaking terms.
No I am not a counselor or a specialist by any means necessary. I just love video games enough that i believe parents and children should be able to come together and talk about it. Parents should sit down and listen to there kids ideas and their reasons why they enjoy playing video games. Not just say OK we'll sit down I'll do this and then manipulate, suggest, coerce, or even just act like I listened but your still going to do it my way because I'm the parent and your just a little child. That is not the way you as the parent I believe should act. Yes your the parent and you must exert control and not let them walk all over you like trash. But! There is no reason and I don't see why it would hurt you so much to actually hear other opinions from others than just yourselves. Yes, I am talking about four years old and up. Everything the kid has to say is important, you'd listen to them if they said some guy tried to get them to get in there car on there way home school wouldn't you? Listen for once to what we the children have to say, please. I understand that not every family has the same problem with there kids playing video games, its all on what they are interested in at the time.
Am I saying that you should allow them to play however long they want to and whenever? No I am most definitely not. You are the parent, take control but with restrictions. Once again this is where the sitting down and speaking with the kid is all about set up specific times and allowances on when they can play. Make a chart if you have to, in fact i think most parents should. Place it where the child will see it everyday multiple times a day. Explain why schooling comes 1st before games, and not just viedo games as well. This can include sports and other such extacurricular activities. Limit time on weekends and when friends come over but allow them to play with friends. Use it as a reward if they do well on homework reward them with fifteen more minutes or so. You as the parent just need to use your own discretion. As I've said before I love video games a lot and looking back on my experience with playing and fighting with my parent I think some of this might help keep parents and children from separating and only bring them closer.
Monday, September 12, 2011
My love of video games
The title to the blog basically says it all. I love video games more than anything else in the world. Many people always come up with the very same question whenever I say that comment. Why? Why do I love video games so much? Whats so fun about sitting in front of a box with a thingy mu-jig in your hand seemingly doing absolutely nothing, but staring at the box, even for hours at a time. So I usually smile at them and ask them the same exact question. So here is what I am going to do, I am going to explain my love for video games through several random posts hoping that others will finally come to realize that my love for video games is not an illness, that I have some sort of disorder, that video games are bad for children, or even that I need to go out and get a life.
Go do something besides sit in front of the TV for a change. Play outside, every other kid your age is out there playing football and soccer, why don't you go join them? I really wish you wouldn't sit it front of the TV all day long. If all you do is sit in front of the TV playing video games you'll become a couch potato. Get off your butt and go exercise. Is your homework done yet, you can't play until its done. Your still in front of that TV? I you have heard at least one of these similar expressions from your mom or dad then you must've heard a thousand more. Parents just do not understand i say, why we play video games for hours on end like we do. We enjoy it mommy and daddy. Why do you work on cars dad? Why do you watch QVC mommy? Why do you garden and play in the dirt mommy? Why do you like to collect trains daddy? Wouldn't it be great that every time they asked us why we like playing video games we could ask them the exact same question just about something that they do constantly. Saying the same word over and over again. Why do they do that all the time? If they were honest with us and weren't trying so hard to stop us from doing what we find comfortable and can relax by doing. They might understand better why we play video games so much, instead of wasting there time and effort to get us to stop.
The bad news is, I don't speak to my mom anymore or any of my family for that matter. Why, u ask. Well, because I love video games! Twenty-two years old and I am still playing. My mother tried so hard and punished me so much for playing video games that it drove me away from my family. I'm very serious, I haven't spoken to my mom since I was 17 years old, and just over the fact that we disagreed over me playing video games. Now I 'm not saying she was wrong in her attempt to try and get me to do other things in my life. But did she have to be so adamant about it, and discipline me to the point that now later in life as I'm now going to college to create video games and working on computers to better them. Maybe parents and kids will look at this blog and strengthen there bonds. Maybe they will both come to realize that video games can and cannot be an obsession. All I can say is that as I blog along I'm going to try to explain the best I can about why I love video games. Kids may start opening up and talking to there parents about games. Parents may see that video games are not evil and out to hurt there kids because in the long one, like me, parents and children need each other in more ways than one.
Go do something besides sit in front of the TV for a change. Play outside, every other kid your age is out there playing football and soccer, why don't you go join them? I really wish you wouldn't sit it front of the TV all day long. If all you do is sit in front of the TV playing video games you'll become a couch potato. Get off your butt and go exercise. Is your homework done yet, you can't play until its done. Your still in front of that TV? I you have heard at least one of these similar expressions from your mom or dad then you must've heard a thousand more. Parents just do not understand i say, why we play video games for hours on end like we do. We enjoy it mommy and daddy. Why do you work on cars dad? Why do you watch QVC mommy? Why do you garden and play in the dirt mommy? Why do you like to collect trains daddy? Wouldn't it be great that every time they asked us why we like playing video games we could ask them the exact same question just about something that they do constantly. Saying the same word over and over again. Why do they do that all the time? If they were honest with us and weren't trying so hard to stop us from doing what we find comfortable and can relax by doing. They might understand better why we play video games so much, instead of wasting there time and effort to get us to stop.
The bad news is, I don't speak to my mom anymore or any of my family for that matter. Why, u ask. Well, because I love video games! Twenty-two years old and I am still playing. My mother tried so hard and punished me so much for playing video games that it drove me away from my family. I'm very serious, I haven't spoken to my mom since I was 17 years old, and just over the fact that we disagreed over me playing video games. Now I 'm not saying she was wrong in her attempt to try and get me to do other things in my life. But did she have to be so adamant about it, and discipline me to the point that now later in life as I'm now going to college to create video games and working on computers to better them. Maybe parents and kids will look at this blog and strengthen there bonds. Maybe they will both come to realize that video games can and cannot be an obsession. All I can say is that as I blog along I'm going to try to explain the best I can about why I love video games. Kids may start opening up and talking to there parents about games. Parents may see that video games are not evil and out to hurt there kids because in the long one, like me, parents and children need each other in more ways than one.
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